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Navigating Perimenopause Is Hard

  • Writer: Myranda
    Myranda
  • Nov 17, 2025
  • 3 min read

As a proud card-carrying member of the WDNCC, I am not necessarily here to put the world on notice that we just do not care anymore...I am here to talk about how much this sucks! No less than a dozen times yesterday did I stand up to do something and in less than two seconds forgot what I was doing. More than half of those things I couldn't even retrace my steps to try and jog my memory because I legit couldn't even remember what I was doing just seconds ago. The brain fog was fogging so hard yesterday.

I know I'm not the only one and I love that Melani, the creator of the WDNCC, started this club for us all to be seen and not feel like we are alone in all of our crazy. Now if you're new to the internet or if you're not a perimenopause, menopause, or post menopausal woman, then you may not know who Melanie but she is the founder of the We Do Not Care Club. Guys, if you have a woman in any of these stages in her life, I highly recommend that you find her, follow her, and read the comments and learn from us on what you can do to help your girl out! Here is her Tiktok and her Instagram if you want to give her a follow.

Here's the thing. I have been working with my Gyn on my symptoms. When I remember to use the estrogen gel, it has my hot flashes under control. Granted they are really flashes but like I'm stupid hot all day long! I'm talking outside at the bus stop in the morning in a t-shirt sweating when it's 30 degrees. But now I have an appointment to talk about the next two symptoms that are driving me nuts that I want to try and get a handle on. One being the brain fog (I mean if yesterday didn't solidify that fact) and the other is my energy level. My vitamin B levels are always in the green yet I have no energy. My sleep sucks because of the perimenopause and my child waking me up at least once a night so that isn't something I can address until she gets her sleep routine under control but there has got to be something we can do.

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Yesterday I was telling my mom how I has just started thinking about painting because there's cheap paint on the walls and stains from the previous owners. Just talking to her about how I would have to paint the ceiling on the entire main floor all at once because it's all an open floor plan started making me feel anxious and exhausted and y'all the thought only just popped into my head! Thinking about the fact that I have like 4 loads of clean laundry that I need to fold and a sink and counter full of dirty dishes is also making me lose steam and this is shit I need to get done. We don't have any clean bowls, spoons, or plates but I have no energy.

I can't increase my caffeine intake because it messes with my SSRI and just gives me the jitters. Plus caffeine after 12pm is generally an absolutely not even remotely in the question because I do want to get to sleep at some point right? I've considered asking for a B12 shot to see if that even helps with my energy level since there for awhile that was like THE thing for people to do to bounce back from like late nights...wink wink...at the club. I'm just a mom struggling to keep my house picked up, laundry done, dishes done, and enjoy life. I have a half freakin marathon I should be working out for now in preparation for mileage starting in January but I DON'T HAVE ANY ENERGY!

I will keep y'all posted after my appointment but it's still a few weeks away. Thank you for listening to my rant and I know I left off on a bit of a cliff hanger about my husband and that will get finished up pretty soon.

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